This is start of the section dedicated to my ex-fiance, Wendy.
We first met in an IRC chat room back in November, 1997 and since then we have grown so very close. It sometimes seemed as if we are in the same room rather than over 3000 miles apart, though there were days when we both felt every single one of those distancing miles.
As soon as we spoke for the first time, even via our computers, we knew we were going to get along famously. It just seemed as if we had so much in common, despite being on different continents.
In just a couple of days we had spoken to each other on the telephone - and it was so very good to hear her voice! We spoke for over an hour, even that first time, and we soon grew to know each other from the inside out. Sometimes chatting in IRC or ICQ for up to five hours at a time.
We exchanged photos, and both were pleased with what we saw - me more than Wendy I would think, I'm no oil painting, more like an oil slick really. We just had to meet in real life. Unfortunately because of the time of year, and the fact that I worked in a shop, we had to wait longer than either of us wanted.
On February 2nd, 1998 two very nervous people met for the first time at Boston Airport, and like a scene from a romantic novel we rushed into each others arms. I was very pleased with what I saw too, Wendy's picture did not do her justice at all she is just beautiful!
The two weeks just flew by, but we managed to squeeze a lot into that time. On February 14th, 1998 we spent a very romantic Valentine's Day together, and I proposed to Wendy at the end of it. She said YES! I was so happy I almost burst as we held each other close.
We spent most of our time since then trying to obtain a K1 visa so that we could be married, and I could live and work in the USA. Other than another two all too brief visits from April 19th to May 5th and December 17th to January 3rd we were apart - and it really hurt!
However long I had to wait, and whatever it took, I was determined not to let that slip through my fingers. I tried to make her happy as best I could from this distance with ICQ messages and chats, emails, phone calls, cards - both real and virtual, gifts and letters. I just wish I could have done more for her, but the Atlantic is one very big pond and it's right in the way.
I sometimes wondered what I had done to deserve such a wonderful, loving and caring partner, and it was often difficult to believe that I was worthy of such a perfect partner. Wendy boosted my confidence no end though, and made so many differences to my life, and all of them for the better.
She made me believe in my own abilities and gave me hope for the future, in so many ways she made the world a better place for me. If I could manage to make her even half as happy as she made me, she would be the happiest woman alive!
The distance took its toll though, and despite our best efforts at trying to cope with our separate lives on opposite sides of the Atlantic Ocean we eventually had to call off the engagement. We each had our own problems to deal with, and trying to keep a close relationship alive across so many miles, on top of that was just too much to deal with. We are still very good friends, and keep in touch as best we can, but we have had to let each other go our separate ways.
Wendy, You still mean so very much to me - I love You more than words can say - and I just wanted to let the whole world know about it.
Wendy's Bio - Further details about my ex-fiance
100 Reasons - An email I sent listing 100 reasons why I Love Wendy
How we met - An account of our first day together in real life
My Inspiration - How Wendy inspires me still
One Chapter Ends - A part of my life comes to a close.
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